Welcome back DaX!
 

Hey DaX. I noticed you were MIA lately. Just wanted to say hi!

How is the car show thing going?

Haha, you caught me
 

Haha, you caught me lurking.

I tell you what, school has been killing me (among other things)! I have had to dedicate SO much time to my Thermo-Fluid Systems Lab that I hardly have time to catch up on here...and there are LOTS of posts I need to read.

On top of school (graduation in t-minus 19 weeks) I'm trying to negotiate a contract for employment with my current employer and/or find a better paying job, I'm getting married in August, so trying to plan that, and I'm trying to get my debt under control so I can figure out whether to buy or rent a house, then there's that - trying to work with a first time home buyer's coach! Whew, it's crazy.

The car show is in 10 days...I'm psyched. I have to make my poster and get parts from my first engine for display this weekend. My car is junky, ugly, and filthy, so I'm hoping I'll win my category. I am really going to try to have a GasSavers.org sticker on there by the car show.

I finished my tranny rebuild and will be doing my 5-speed conversion in a few weeks.

Anyhow, good to be back...even if it's temporary until this semester is over.

nothing says I love you like
 

nothing says I love you like a prenup.

Re: nothing says I love you like
 

Wow... dunno where that came from, but I have a feeling it was rather inappropriate.

Quote:Wow... dunno where
 

Indeed. :(

Yet Again...
 

Yet again C-888, WTF? Sheesh.

RH77

it maybe harsh but true. 60%
 

it maybe harsh but true. 60% in marriages end in divorce. 80% of the marriages want to divorce but can't due to reasons of single parent, child support or etc.

My grandparents of 42 years even divorced, my aunt also divoced.

Prenup sounds stupid now but you'll be happy if you get divorced in the future due to the prenup saving you.

i thought it was 50% and
 

i thought it was 50% and 75%......

anyway congrats man! im getting married in august as well. the 13th :)

Re: i thought it was 50% and
 

times change.

Quote:it maybe harsh but
 

I see, but at least to me it seems disrespectful to the marriage to assume it will become a statisic or that neither of the parties really know that they are doing...

Quote:it maybe harsh but
 

Wiki err0r double post.

Re: it maybe harsh but true. 60%
 

Son, you're on the edge of "Troll" status with a statement like that. You should be ashamed of yourself. I wish Dax the best with his marriage, and IMO you owe him an on-post apology. Just because you've been tainted by divorce doesn't give you the right to bring others down with you. I come from a family of divorces, but I'm happily married for about 2 years now and I don't try to belittle people that try things that I disagree with. I hope the marriage lasts through our lifetimes, and we're really working at it. I think Dax will do well based upon the foundation he has started in researching a home purchase.

Compaq888, I feel bad that your life has clearly been negatively affected by divorce. I hope your life improves and wish you the best despite your attitude toward others.

Rick Harrell
"RH77"

You should be ashamed of yourself V2.0
 

Wiki Wiki

You should be ashamed of yourself V3.0
 

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my life is not tained by
 

my life is not tained by divorces. People remarry. There is nothing wrong with getting divorced except the part where you lose 50% or more of your money and etc.

congrats on marriage :)

there is everything wrong
 

there is everything wrong with divorce. ive seen too many broken families and problems come from it. it is extremely destructive

the fact that those statistics are getting worse makes me sick!

i hate to totally thread jack, but if your going to get married with divorce being an option, then you didnt really get married.

in a real marriage, divorce is never an option.

Sorry If I came out all
 

Sorry If I came out all harsh Dax, I just want to wish you well. When my grandparents divorced and my aunt nobody sued anybody for any money. But you know how it is in America. Everybody gets sued over any little thing. I do wish you a happy marriage.

Re: it maybe harsh but true. 60%
 

Unless you can give me a source for your stats, I don't buy it. Having taken a number of stats classes it's very easy to see how stats can be misused and obscured.

We discussed this exact situation in my stats class as an example of how "stats lie." While 50% of marriages end in divorce, this doesn't mean that 50% of people who get married get divorced. I know people who have been married 6 times. Each one of those marriages counts towards the 50% statistic. Brittany Spears' shotgun wedding and subsequent divorce also counts towards this stat, as do all of the teenagers who get married on a whim and divorced a year later.

Sadly a lot of the divorce statistics are just propoganda made to make you think that the world is in a worse place than it really is. After all, if the world is in a horrible place then you'll buy into the "solution," whatever it may be. You'll see the same type of mentality arise when people start talking about fuel economy, or perhaps try to sell you their device. Create the cancer, and then offer the cure.

I've been divorced, and I'm a young guy. It doesn't mean that I'm going to get divorced again. I think when you tell someone to get a prenup you're essentially telling them that you don't believe their marriage will work, which is a rather large insult when coming from a stranger on the internet. Saying such a thing implies that the person he is marrying is only out for money, that the marriage will fail, and that he will be screwed in the end.

Anyway, Dax... good luck with classes. Wedding preparations suck, but it's always worth it in the end. Please pop in every once in a while and give us updates. Hopefully we'll hear about the car show soon.

Re: it maybe harsh but true. 60%
 

I never implied that a prenup would end up in a divorce later on. People change that is the reason for a prenup.

Do some Research and try to Understand
 

Perhaps there's a culture or perception gap here. C-888, we're trying to tell you about the perception of the pre-nuptual agreement in American Society. From my experiences, the pre-nup is reserved for people like Donald Trump and Jessica Simpson. The average person in the U.S. would be broken hearted, offended, and it does indeed imply, "Hey if this doesn't work out, I get 80% of everything". That completely dismisses the bond of commitment since there's an "escape route". Mark my words - if you ever mention a pre-nup, you'll lose the love of your life. People change, but people adapt. People change, but most are willing to take that chance. Even if a divorce occurs, the experiences that you've had together can never be replaced, even if you have to give up a percentage of things with a pricetag. You can't put a price on love.

Dax, Matt summed it up -- the planning stage is sometimes rough for the Groom, but when planned properly, the Big Day will go off without a glitch. Good luck with school, the job, and the whole works.

RH77

No sweat from what anyone
 

No sweat from what anyone has said - but I don't believe I'll be needing a prenuptual agreement. I see marriage as a commitment, not a signed contract. My life has been scarred by divorce left and right - every grandparent, my parents, two of my siblings, and countless aunts & uncles have gone through divorces I've personally witnessed. It's all good though - it's taught me the importance of making sure you make the right decision ONCE.

Yeah, the planning stage is kind of rough - mostly worrying about where the money will come from, but I'm sure it will come through - I rarely cave under pressure.

Anyhow, no need for any deep apologies, but that first remark was kind of weird, haha. I'll be around for sure and keep updates coming as I can. Again about prenups - if we did divorce and she sued me, all she'd be after is a huge lump of debt - our cars are 18, 16, and 9 years old, and we don't have much else.

Re: No sweat from what anyone
 

LOL! I can see it now.. "Your honor, I want 50% of his debt. It's only right!"

Luckily I married someone who is a VERY independant woman. She works and we each pay for our own stuff. We have seperate bank accounts, buy our own clothes, toys, etc. We don't have to ask permission to do anything. It's really the perfect marriage. Her being incredibily attractive doesn't hurt either. We knew going into the marriage that money is the #1 reason for conflict in marriage. We decided to make it a non-issue from the beginning.

take lots of pictures at that car show!

Re: No sweat from what anyone
 

Seriously, LOL! I'm in the same position, since both of our parents didn't have a whole lot to contribute to our wedding, we kept the ceremony moderately simple, put it on credit (ugh), and moved forward. It went better than expected, and we're chipping away at the cost. It was worth every penny. But yeah, she'd get a used TL with 130K miles, and a mound of debt. Now that's commitment to marry someone with some financial inequities and who travels 4 days a week. She's a real Saint. Enough about me -- Dax - no worries and have fun!

RH77